If flirting feels confusing, uncomfortable, or forced...you’re not alone.
One of the most common things I find myself telling singles lately is simple but not easy:
If you’re a single Latter-day Saint right now, you’ve probably noticed something shifting: People are texting, but not dating.
Before UT Match ever existed…I was sitting alone in my Singles Ward at the University of Utah (what we used to call our ward) wondering if I’d find my place.
If you watched KSL’s “Waiting to Wed” and felt like they were describing you...you’re not alone.
Have you ever felt like finding love should be easier with so many options out there?
Every six months, General Conference gives us a spiritual reset
General Conference is more than just a weekend of talks and delicious conference treats.
For many singles, dating is already complex by having to balance careers, faith, friendships, and personal goals. But within LDS culture especially, the expectations around marriage can feel even heavier. For example, family members can express their hopes with well-meaning questions: “ So, when are you getting married ?” or “ Have you met someone yet ?” While rooted in love, these questions can create stress rather than support. Where Does the Pressure Come From? Cultural Tradition Marriage has always been central in LDS teachings and culture. Older generations, raised in times when people typically married younger, can project that same timeline onto today’s daters. Expressions of Love and Concern Grandparents or parents can sometimes see marriage as a way to ensure happiness, stability, and that eternal family connection. Their questions, though repetitive, often stem from love and a desire to want their loved ones to be happy. Generational Differences Today’s dating landscape is vastly different from education, careers, and personal growth that often extend the timeline. Many family members may not fully understand the modern challenges singles face in finding a compatible partner. The Impact of Pressure Feeling pressured can sometimes lead to rushed decisions, unnecessary guilt, or frustration. Instead of dating being a hopeful, faith-driven process, it can feel like a race against expectations. This shift can cause singles to prioritize “checking a box” over building a strong, meaningful relationship. The COVID-19 Pause All of our daters lived through the unique disruption of COVID-19, a time when dating all but stopped. Social events were canceled, gatherings were limited, and opportunities to meet new people disappeared overnight. What would normally be years filled with experiences such as, meeting friends of friends, attending football games or concerts, going on casual dates were replaced with isolation and uncertainty. For many, those “lost years” added to the sense of urgency and pressure once life began opening up again, as if they had to make up for lost time in dating and relationships. What Pressure Feels Like: From Others and from Self When questions from family pile up, it can feel like judgment, even when it’s not intended that way. Singles may start to hear not just their grandmother’s voice for example, but their own inner voice repeating: “I’m behind. Everyone else is moving forward.” This dual pressure (external from loved ones and internal from personal expectations) creates a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety that overshadows the joy of dating. Helpful tips when the pressure builds: Take a breath before responding. Redirect the conversation with kindness but firmness. Remind yourself of your progress in life outside of dating, such as your career, friendships, and spiritual growth. Journal or pray about your feelings to release the weight instead of carrying it inward. Talk to a trusted friend about how you are feeling. The First Step to Reframing The very first step in reframing marriage pressure is to shift the narrative from “I’m behind” to “ I’m preparing .” Instead of seeing singleness as a delay, see it as intentional preparation for the right match. This reframe keeps you aligned with faith, reminds you that your worth is not defined by relationship status, and centers your journey on building a relationship when the timing and the person are right. Acknowledge Their Intentions Remember that questions from grandparents or family usually come from a place of love, not judgment. Reframing their comments as care instead of criticism can help reduce the sting. Set Gentle Boundaries It’s okay to redirect the conversation: “I appreciate your concern. I’m focusing on meeting someone who shares my values, and that takes time.” Stay Rooted in Faith and Timing Trusting that the Lord’s timing is better than anyone else’s can bring peace. Choosing faith over fear keeps dating centered on eternal perspective rather than external pressure. Focus on Compatibility, Not Timelines The right match isn’t about speed. Remember it's about building a relationship founded on shared faith, core values, and chemistry. Marriage is a covenant worth waiting for. Finding Hope in the Process While the weight of family expectations can feel heavy, remember: you are not behind . Hope is found in trusting the process, leaning on faith, and knowing that true love isn’t about appeasing others it’s about creating a lasting, eternal partnership. At UT Match, we honor both tradition and individuality. We know your journey to marriage deserves support, not pressure and we’re here to help you find the right match with confidence.
Many single adults believe they will know instantly if they are attracted to someone.
If flirting feels confusing, uncomfortable, or forced...you’re not alone.
One of the most common things I find myself telling singles lately is simple but not easy:
If you’re a single Latter-day Saint right now, you’ve probably noticed something shifting: People are texting, but not dating.
Before UT Match ever existed…I was sitting alone in my Singles Ward at the University of Utah (what we used to call our ward) wondering if I’d find my place.
If flirting feels confusing, uncomfortable, or forced...you’re not alone.
One of the most common things I find myself telling singles lately is simple but not easy:
If you’re a single Latter-day Saint right now, you’ve probably noticed something shifting: People are texting, but not dating.
Before UT Match ever existed…I was sitting alone in my Singles Ward at the University of Utah (what we used to call our ward) wondering if I’d find my place.
If you watched KSL’s “Waiting to Wed” and felt like they were describing you...you’re not alone.
Have you ever felt like finding love should be easier with so many options out there?
Every six months, General Conference gives us a spiritual reset
General Conference is more than just a weekend of talks and delicious conference treats.
For many singles, dating is already complex by having to balance careers, faith, friendships, and personal goals. But within LDS culture especially, the expectations around marriage can feel even heavier. For example, family members can express their hopes with well-meaning questions: “ So, when are you getting married ?” or “ Have you met someone yet ?” While rooted in love, these questions can create stress rather than support. Where Does the Pressure Come From? Cultural Tradition Marriage has always been central in LDS teachings and culture. Older generations, raised in times when people typically married younger, can project that same timeline onto today’s daters. Expressions of Love and Concern Grandparents or parents can sometimes see marriage as a way to ensure happiness, stability, and that eternal family connection. Their questions, though repetitive, often stem from love and a desire to want their loved ones to be happy. Generational Differences Today’s dating landscape is vastly different from education, careers, and personal growth that often extend the timeline. Many family members may not fully understand the modern challenges singles face in finding a compatible partner. The Impact of Pressure Feeling pressured can sometimes lead to rushed decisions, unnecessary guilt, or frustration. Instead of dating being a hopeful, faith-driven process, it can feel like a race against expectations. This shift can cause singles to prioritize “checking a box” over building a strong, meaningful relationship. The COVID-19 Pause All of our daters lived through the unique disruption of COVID-19, a time when dating all but stopped. Social events were canceled, gatherings were limited, and opportunities to meet new people disappeared overnight. What would normally be years filled with experiences such as, meeting friends of friends, attending football games or concerts, going on casual dates were replaced with isolation and uncertainty. For many, those “lost years” added to the sense of urgency and pressure once life began opening up again, as if they had to make up for lost time in dating and relationships. What Pressure Feels Like: From Others and from Self When questions from family pile up, it can feel like judgment, even when it’s not intended that way. Singles may start to hear not just their grandmother’s voice for example, but their own inner voice repeating: “I’m behind. Everyone else is moving forward.” This dual pressure (external from loved ones and internal from personal expectations) creates a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety that overshadows the joy of dating. Helpful tips when the pressure builds: Take a breath before responding. Redirect the conversation with kindness but firmness. Remind yourself of your progress in life outside of dating, such as your career, friendships, and spiritual growth. Journal or pray about your feelings to release the weight instead of carrying it inward. Talk to a trusted friend about how you are feeling. The First Step to Reframing The very first step in reframing marriage pressure is to shift the narrative from “I’m behind” to “ I’m preparing .” Instead of seeing singleness as a delay, see it as intentional preparation for the right match. This reframe keeps you aligned with faith, reminds you that your worth is not defined by relationship status, and centers your journey on building a relationship when the timing and the person are right. Acknowledge Their Intentions Remember that questions from grandparents or family usually come from a place of love, not judgment. Reframing their comments as care instead of criticism can help reduce the sting. Set Gentle Boundaries It’s okay to redirect the conversation: “I appreciate your concern. I’m focusing on meeting someone who shares my values, and that takes time.” Stay Rooted in Faith and Timing Trusting that the Lord’s timing is better than anyone else’s can bring peace. Choosing faith over fear keeps dating centered on eternal perspective rather than external pressure. Focus on Compatibility, Not Timelines The right match isn’t about speed. Remember it's about building a relationship founded on shared faith, core values, and chemistry. Marriage is a covenant worth waiting for. Finding Hope in the Process While the weight of family expectations can feel heavy, remember: you are not behind . Hope is found in trusting the process, leaning on faith, and knowing that true love isn’t about appeasing others it’s about creating a lasting, eternal partnership. At UT Match, we honor both tradition and individuality. We know your journey to marriage deserves support, not pressure and we’re here to help you find the right match with confidence.
Many single adults believe they will know instantly if they are attracted to someone.
