Why You’re Still Single in Utah & Why Investing in Real Matchmaking Is Worth It

November 15, 2025
November 5, 2025
Have you ever felt like finding love should be easier with so many options out there?
October 7, 2025
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September 29, 2025
General Conference is more than just a weekend of talks and delicious conference treats.
September 1, 2025
For many singles, dating is already complex by having to balance careers, faith, friendships, and personal goals. But within LDS culture especially, the expectations around marriage can feel even heavier. For example, family members can express their hopes with well-meaning questions: “ So, when are you getting married ?” or “ Have you met someone yet ?” While rooted in love, these questions can create stress rather than support. Where Does the Pressure Come From? Cultural Tradition Marriage has always been central in LDS teachings and culture. Older generations, raised in times when people typically married younger, can project that same timeline onto today’s daters. Expressions of Love and Concern Grandparents or parents can sometimes see marriage as a way to ensure happiness, stability, and that eternal family connection. Their questions, though repetitive, often stem from love and a desire to want their loved ones to be happy. Generational Differences Today’s dating landscape is vastly different from education, careers, and personal growth that often extend the timeline. Many family members may not fully understand the modern challenges singles face in finding a compatible partner. The Impact of Pressure Feeling pressured can sometimes lead to rushed decisions, unnecessary guilt, or frustration. Instead of dating being a hopeful, faith-driven process, it can feel like a race against expectations. This shift can cause singles to prioritize “checking a box” over building a strong, meaningful relationship. The COVID-19 Pause All of our daters lived through the unique disruption of COVID-19, a time when dating all but stopped. Social events were canceled, gatherings were limited, and opportunities to meet new people disappeared overnight. What would normally be years filled with experiences such as, meeting friends of friends, attending football games or concerts, going on casual dates were replaced with isolation and uncertainty. For many, those “lost years” added to the sense of urgency and pressure once life began opening up again, as if they had to make up for lost time in dating and relationships. What Pressure Feels Like: From Others and from Self When questions from family pile up, it can feel like judgment, even when it’s not intended that way. Singles may start to hear not just their grandmother’s voice for example, but their own inner voice repeating: “I’m behind. Everyone else is moving forward.” This dual pressure (external from loved ones and internal from personal expectations) creates a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety that overshadows the joy of dating. Helpful tips when the pressure builds: Take a breath before responding. Redirect the conversation with kindness but firmness. Remind yourself of your progress in life outside of dating, such as your career, friendships, and spiritual growth. Journal or pray about your feelings to release the weight instead of carrying it inward. Talk to a trusted friend about how you are feeling. The First Step to Reframing The very first step in reframing marriage pressure is to shift the narrative from “I’m behind” to “ I’m preparing .” Instead of seeing singleness as a delay, see it as intentional preparation for the right match. This reframe keeps you aligned with faith, reminds you that your worth is not defined by relationship status, and centers your journey on building a relationship when the timing and the person are right. Acknowledge Their Intentions Remember that questions from grandparents or family usually come from a place of love, not judgment. Reframing their comments as care instead of criticism can help reduce the sting. Set Gentle Boundaries It’s okay to redirect the conversation: “I appreciate your concern. I’m focusing on meeting someone who shares my values, and that takes time.” Stay Rooted in Faith and Timing Trusting that the Lord’s timing is better than anyone else’s can bring peace. Choosing faith over fear keeps dating centered on eternal perspective rather than external pressure. Focus on Compatibility, Not Timelines The right match isn’t about speed. Remember it's about building a relationship founded on shared faith, core values, and chemistry. Marriage is a covenant worth waiting for. Finding Hope in the Process While the weight of family expectations can feel heavy, remember: you are not behind . Hope is found in trusting the process, leaning on faith, and knowing that true love isn’t about appeasing others it’s about creating a lasting, eternal partnership. At UT Match, we honor both tradition and individuality. We know your journey to marriage deserves support, not pressure and we’re here to help you find the right match with confidence.
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July 3, 2025
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April 5, 2025
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November 5, 2025
Have you ever felt like finding love should be easier with so many options out there?
October 7, 2025
Every six months, General Conference gives us a spiritual reset
September 29, 2025
General Conference is more than just a weekend of talks and delicious conference treats.
September 1, 2025
For many singles, dating is already complex by having to balance careers, faith, friendships, and personal goals. But within LDS culture especially, the expectations around marriage can feel even heavier. For example, family members can express their hopes with well-meaning questions: “ So, when are you getting married ?” or “ Have you met someone yet ?” While rooted in love, these questions can create stress rather than support. Where Does the Pressure Come From? Cultural Tradition Marriage has always been central in LDS teachings and culture. Older generations, raised in times when people typically married younger, can project that same timeline onto today’s daters. Expressions of Love and Concern Grandparents or parents can sometimes see marriage as a way to ensure happiness, stability, and that eternal family connection. Their questions, though repetitive, often stem from love and a desire to want their loved ones to be happy. Generational Differences Today’s dating landscape is vastly different from education, careers, and personal growth that often extend the timeline. Many family members may not fully understand the modern challenges singles face in finding a compatible partner. The Impact of Pressure Feeling pressured can sometimes lead to rushed decisions, unnecessary guilt, or frustration. Instead of dating being a hopeful, faith-driven process, it can feel like a race against expectations. This shift can cause singles to prioritize “checking a box” over building a strong, meaningful relationship. The COVID-19 Pause All of our daters lived through the unique disruption of COVID-19, a time when dating all but stopped. Social events were canceled, gatherings were limited, and opportunities to meet new people disappeared overnight. What would normally be years filled with experiences such as, meeting friends of friends, attending football games or concerts, going on casual dates were replaced with isolation and uncertainty. For many, those “lost years” added to the sense of urgency and pressure once life began opening up again, as if they had to make up for lost time in dating and relationships. What Pressure Feels Like: From Others and from Self When questions from family pile up, it can feel like judgment, even when it’s not intended that way. Singles may start to hear not just their grandmother’s voice for example, but their own inner voice repeating: “I’m behind. Everyone else is moving forward.” This dual pressure (external from loved ones and internal from personal expectations) creates a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety that overshadows the joy of dating. Helpful tips when the pressure builds: Take a breath before responding. Redirect the conversation with kindness but firmness. Remind yourself of your progress in life outside of dating, such as your career, friendships, and spiritual growth. Journal or pray about your feelings to release the weight instead of carrying it inward. Talk to a trusted friend about how you are feeling. The First Step to Reframing The very first step in reframing marriage pressure is to shift the narrative from “I’m behind” to “ I’m preparing .” Instead of seeing singleness as a delay, see it as intentional preparation for the right match. This reframe keeps you aligned with faith, reminds you that your worth is not defined by relationship status, and centers your journey on building a relationship when the timing and the person are right. Acknowledge Their Intentions Remember that questions from grandparents or family usually come from a place of love, not judgment. Reframing their comments as care instead of criticism can help reduce the sting. Set Gentle Boundaries It’s okay to redirect the conversation: “I appreciate your concern. I’m focusing on meeting someone who shares my values, and that takes time.” Stay Rooted in Faith and Timing Trusting that the Lord’s timing is better than anyone else’s can bring peace. Choosing faith over fear keeps dating centered on eternal perspective rather than external pressure. Focus on Compatibility, Not Timelines The right match isn’t about speed. Remember it's about building a relationship founded on shared faith, core values, and chemistry. Marriage is a covenant worth waiting for. Finding Hope in the Process While the weight of family expectations can feel heavy, remember: you are not behind . Hope is found in trusting the process, leaning on faith, and knowing that true love isn’t about appeasing others it’s about creating a lasting, eternal partnership. At UT Match, we honor both tradition and individuality. We know your journey to marriage deserves support, not pressure and we’re here to help you find the right match with confidence.
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If you watched KSL’s “Waiting to Wed” and felt like they were describing you...you’re not alone.

Across Utah, thousands of amazing, faithful, and accomplished LDS singles are still single not because they don’t want marriage, but because modern dating just isn’t working.  Reasons could be: 

  • Apps are overwhelming
  • Limited dating circles
  • Everyone says they want connection, but few know how to build it
  • Pressure to find the "perfect" person
  • Rushed timelines

At UT Match, we have been listening to LDS singles ages 22–35 years old, and the pattern is clear: the problem isn’t them...it’s the process.


What Am I Doing Wrong?

If you’ve ever wondered “What am I doing wrong?” the answer might surprise you: probably nothing.  You are just trying to find a long-term relationship and/or marriage in a dating culture designed for convenience, not commitment.

Here’s part of what is going on in Utah’s dating scene:

  • Too many options, not enough depth.   Apps can make dating feel like shopping.  You swipe, chat, maybe meet once...then you don't hear from them again.  You are left wondering if they found someone “better” to chat with. 
  • Fear of rejection and perfectionism.  Many LDS singles set impossible standards either subconsciously or consciously while others decide to just avoid risk entirely due to fear of rejection. 
  • You want to feel “a spark” instantly, but real connection usually grows through consistency, not instant chemistry.  We see this "spark" portrayed on social media, movies, romance books, and other sources where we often don't realize real connection takes time and through shared experiences. 
  • Overlapping circles. How many times have you been asked "What high school did you attend" before the conversation even really starts?  This is especially true in LDS communities, where it can feel like you’ve already dated everyone or can’t break into a friend group that’s been together since high school.  It’s discouraging and it often makes people give up before they even try again.
  • Burnout and disappointment. You’re tired of small talk, ghosting, and surface-level dating that doesn’t go anywhere.

None of that means you’re not relationship material!  It just means you’re navigating a system that’s not built for people who actually want marriage.


Why Real Matchmaking Costs More and Why It Works

The truth is most LDS singles aren’t struggling in dating because they lack faith, effort, or good intentions they’re struggling because the current dating culture doesn’t make connection easy.  And while UT Match cannot change every aspect of that culture overnight, we can change the process you use to find someone.


That’s where matchmaking comes in.  Real, intentional, human matchmaking by certified professionals that care about you.  It’s not about signing up for another app or waiting for luck to strike and boom you have found your eternal companion.  It’s about working with certified professionals who personally take the time to get to know who you are, care about your outcome, and curate actual dates that make sense. 


Let’s talk about the price.  Some people visit our site and think, “This looks amazing… but why does it cost so much?”  We offer three different membership levels that range in price and services; however all levels (Silver, Gold & Platinum) are for an entire year.  Here’s the truth: because real matchmaking isn’t an app, it’s a personal, guided process designed to help you find your match.  Yes, you read that correctly...our goal during your entire year with UT Match is to help you find someone who fits your values and vision for marriage.


And while not every client can be guaranteed they will meet their forever person within that year, every single client leaves a better dater, more confident, self-aware, and clear about what they are truly looking for.  That growth alone changes how you show up in dating and increases your chances of real, lasting connection.

When you invest in UT Match, here’s some of what you are paying for:

  • Real people, not algorithms.  Every client receives an interview (in-person or on Zoom) with our professional certified matchmaker and certified dating coach who listen, take notes, and get to know you.  We ask about everything from how you grew up, your values, goals, and relationship readiness. 
  • Access to our dating pool.  Our members are intentional and serious about dating and marriage.  Every person in our network has been carefully vetted and interviewed.  We have college students, graduates, and established professionals who live their values and want the same in a partner.
  • Curated matches.  We don’t flood you with profiles.  We hand-select individuals who truly fit your core values, personality, attraction preferences, and life goals.  Our goal is to find your match! 
  • Background check.  Your safety and peace of mind matter!  Every client is vetted, and we get to know each client. 
  • Ongoing guidance and feedback.  UT Match doesn't just introduce you and walk away.  No, we stay involved throughout your journey.  We check in after dates, refine your matches based on feedback, and help you reflect on what you are learning so you grow in confidence and clarity with every experience.
  • Personalized one-on-one date coaching.  Through calls, Zooms, and texts, our dating coach offers real-time guidance, encouragement, and insight to help you navigate your dating experiences with confidence and clarity.
  • A year-long Reflection Series that will help clarify, refine, and strengthen what you are looking for in a partner. 
  • And other features depending on our different packages

Each of these steps is intentional.  Each one increases your odds of success.  When you invest in UT Match, you’re not paying for a “membership” you are investing in our structured process to meet someone who aligns with your faith, values, and future.  You are joining a community of genuine, ready, and successful LDS single adults. 


Intentional Dating: The UT Match Standard

We believe dating should be intentional...not rushed, not casual, and not passive.

Intentional dating means:

  • You’re clear on what you want and why.
  • You’re willing to invest time and effort.
  • You approach each date with curiosity, not perfectionism.
  • You commit to seeing if it could work instead of constantly wondering if there’s something better.

This mindset changes everything.  It’s how couples move from dating fatigue to real connection.  We work with all of our clients to take this new UT Match approach to dating. 


For Singles Who Are Ready to Stop Waiting

We created UT Match for young single adults who still believe in love and who haven’t given up on the idea that real connection, commitment, and marriage are worth it.  We understand that dating can be discouraging and frustrating.  You might wonder if your time has passed or if dating even exists anymore.  It does!!  We see it every day with the clients we work with...people meeting, connecting, and realizing that the right match often comes when you decide to try again, with hope and intention.


So don’t lose faith in love.  Your efforts matter!  When you’re ready, take that next small step whether that's trying to attend FHE or when a friend asks you to do something...go!  Not out of pressure or fear, but out of trust that good things come to those who move forward with purpose.  Because love isn’t about luck...it’s about faith, timing, and courage!  And yours might be closer than you think.

November 5, 2025
Have you ever felt like finding love should be easier with so many options out there?
October 7, 2025
Every six months, General Conference gives us a spiritual reset
September 29, 2025
General Conference is more than just a weekend of talks and delicious conference treats.
September 1, 2025
For many singles, dating is already complex by having to balance careers, faith, friendships, and personal goals. But within LDS culture especially, the expectations around marriage can feel even heavier. For example, family members can express their hopes with well-meaning questions: “ So, when are you getting married ?” or “ Have you met someone yet ?” While rooted in love, these questions can create stress rather than support. Where Does the Pressure Come From? Cultural Tradition Marriage has always been central in LDS teachings and culture. Older generations, raised in times when people typically married younger, can project that same timeline onto today’s daters. Expressions of Love and Concern Grandparents or parents can sometimes see marriage as a way to ensure happiness, stability, and that eternal family connection. Their questions, though repetitive, often stem from love and a desire to want their loved ones to be happy. Generational Differences Today’s dating landscape is vastly different from education, careers, and personal growth that often extend the timeline. Many family members may not fully understand the modern challenges singles face in finding a compatible partner. The Impact of Pressure Feeling pressured can sometimes lead to rushed decisions, unnecessary guilt, or frustration. Instead of dating being a hopeful, faith-driven process, it can feel like a race against expectations. This shift can cause singles to prioritize “checking a box” over building a strong, meaningful relationship. The COVID-19 Pause All of our daters lived through the unique disruption of COVID-19, a time when dating all but stopped. Social events were canceled, gatherings were limited, and opportunities to meet new people disappeared overnight. What would normally be years filled with experiences such as, meeting friends of friends, attending football games or concerts, going on casual dates were replaced with isolation and uncertainty. For many, those “lost years” added to the sense of urgency and pressure once life began opening up again, as if they had to make up for lost time in dating and relationships. What Pressure Feels Like: From Others and from Self When questions from family pile up, it can feel like judgment, even when it’s not intended that way. Singles may start to hear not just their grandmother’s voice for example, but their own inner voice repeating: “I’m behind. Everyone else is moving forward.” This dual pressure (external from loved ones and internal from personal expectations) creates a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety that overshadows the joy of dating. Helpful tips when the pressure builds: Take a breath before responding. Redirect the conversation with kindness but firmness. Remind yourself of your progress in life outside of dating, such as your career, friendships, and spiritual growth. Journal or pray about your feelings to release the weight instead of carrying it inward. Talk to a trusted friend about how you are feeling. The First Step to Reframing The very first step in reframing marriage pressure is to shift the narrative from “I’m behind” to “ I’m preparing .” Instead of seeing singleness as a delay, see it as intentional preparation for the right match. This reframe keeps you aligned with faith, reminds you that your worth is not defined by relationship status, and centers your journey on building a relationship when the timing and the person are right. Acknowledge Their Intentions Remember that questions from grandparents or family usually come from a place of love, not judgment. Reframing their comments as care instead of criticism can help reduce the sting. Set Gentle Boundaries It’s okay to redirect the conversation: “I appreciate your concern. I’m focusing on meeting someone who shares my values, and that takes time.” Stay Rooted in Faith and Timing Trusting that the Lord’s timing is better than anyone else’s can bring peace. Choosing faith over fear keeps dating centered on eternal perspective rather than external pressure. Focus on Compatibility, Not Timelines The right match isn’t about speed. Remember it's about building a relationship founded on shared faith, core values, and chemistry. Marriage is a covenant worth waiting for. Finding Hope in the Process While the weight of family expectations can feel heavy, remember: you are not behind . Hope is found in trusting the process, leaning on faith, and knowing that true love isn’t about appeasing others it’s about creating a lasting, eternal partnership. At UT Match, we honor both tradition and individuality. We know your journey to marriage deserves support, not pressure and we’re here to help you find the right match with confidence.
August 1, 2025
Many single adults believe they will know instantly if they are attracted to someone.
July 3, 2025
Dating can feel like journey filled with highs and lows.
June 6, 2025
One of the most confusing and painful experiences is ghosting.
May 5, 2025
Core values is what determines whether love will last.
April 5, 2025
When it comes to dating two words often come up: chemistry and compatibility.
March 1, 2025
Many single adults find themselves caught in what's called a situationship.
Show More