Why You’re Still Single in Utah & Why Investing in Real Matchmaking Is Worth It


If you watched KSL’s “Waiting to Wed” and felt like they were describing you...you’re not alone.

Across Utah, thousands of amazing, faithful, and accomplished LDS singles are still single not because they don’t want marriage, but because modern dating just isn’t working. Reasons could be:
- Apps are overwhelming
- Limited dating circles
- Everyone says they want connection, but few know how to build it
- Pressure to find the "perfect" person
- Rushed timelines
At UT Match, we have been listening to LDS singles ages 22–35 years old, and the pattern is clear: the problem isn’t them...it’s the process.
What Am I Doing Wrong?
If you’ve ever wondered “What am I doing wrong?” the answer might surprise you: probably nothing. You are just trying to find a long-term relationship and/or marriage in a dating culture designed for convenience, not commitment.
Here’s part of what is going on in Utah’s dating scene:
- Too many options, not enough depth. Apps can make dating feel like shopping. You swipe, chat, maybe meet once...then you don't hear from them again. You are left wondering if they found someone “better” to chat with.
- Fear of rejection and perfectionism. Many LDS singles set impossible standards either subconsciously or consciously while others decide to just avoid risk entirely due to fear of rejection.
- You want to feel “a spark” instantly, but real connection usually grows through consistency, not instant chemistry. We see this "spark" portrayed on social media, movies, romance books, and other sources where we often don't realize real connection takes time and through shared experiences.
- Overlapping circles. How many times have you been asked "What high school did you attend" before the conversation even really starts? This is especially true in LDS communities, where it can feel like you’ve already dated everyone or can’t break into a friend group that’s been together since high school. It’s discouraging and it often makes people give up before they even try again.
- Burnout and disappointment. You’re tired of small talk, ghosting, and surface-level dating that doesn’t go anywhere.
None of that means you’re not relationship material! It just means you’re navigating a system that’s not built for people who actually want marriage.
Why Real Matchmaking Costs More and Why It Works
The truth is most LDS singles aren’t struggling in dating because they lack faith, effort, or good intentions they’re struggling because the current dating culture doesn’t make connection easy. And while UT Match cannot change every aspect of that culture overnight, we can change the process you use to find someone.
That’s where matchmaking comes in. Real, intentional, human matchmaking by certified professionals that care about you. It’s not about signing up for another app or waiting for luck to strike and boom you have found your eternal companion. It’s about working with certified professionals who personally take the time to get to know who you are, care about your outcome, and curate actual dates that make sense.
Let’s talk about the price. Some people visit our site and think, “This looks amazing… but why does it cost so much?” We offer three different membership levels that range in price and services; however all levels (Silver, Gold & Platinum) are for an entire year. Here’s the truth: because real matchmaking isn’t an app, it’s a personal, guided process designed to help you find your match. Yes, you read that correctly...our goal during your entire year with UT Match is to help you find someone who fits your values and vision for marriage.
And while not every client can be guaranteed they will meet their forever person within that year, every single client leaves a better dater, more confident, self-aware, and clear about what they are truly looking for. That growth alone changes how you show up in dating and increases your chances of real, lasting connection.
When you invest in UT Match, here’s some of what you are paying for:
- Real people, not algorithms. Every client receives an interview (in-person or on Zoom) with our professional certified matchmaker and certified dating coach who listen, take notes, and get to know you. We ask about everything from how you grew up, your values, goals, and relationship readiness.
- Access to our dating pool. Our members are intentional and serious about dating and marriage. Every person in our network has been carefully vetted and interviewed. We have college students, graduates, and established professionals who live their values and want the same in a partner.
- Curated matches. We don’t flood you with profiles. We hand-select individuals who truly fit your core values, personality, attraction preferences, and life goals. Our goal is to find your match!
- Background check. Your safety and peace of mind matter! Every client is vetted, and we get to know each client.
- Ongoing guidance and feedback. UT Match doesn't just introduce you and walk away. No, we stay involved throughout your journey. We check in after dates, refine your matches based on feedback, and help you reflect on what you are learning so you grow in confidence and clarity with every experience.
- Personalized one-on-one date coaching. Through calls, Zooms, and texts, our dating coach offers real-time guidance, encouragement, and insight to help you navigate your dating experiences with confidence and clarity.
- A year-long Reflection Series that will help clarify, refine, and strengthen what you are looking for in a partner.
- And other features depending on our different packages.
Each of these steps is intentional. Each one increases your odds of success. When you invest in UT Match, you’re not paying for a “membership” you are investing in our structured process to meet someone who aligns with your faith, values, and future. You are joining a community of genuine, ready, and successful LDS single adults.
Intentional Dating: The UT Match Standard
We believe dating should be intentional...not rushed, not casual, and not passive.
Intentional dating means:
- You’re clear on what you want and why.
- You’re willing to invest time and effort.
- You approach each date with curiosity, not perfectionism.
- You commit to seeing if it could work instead of constantly wondering if there’s something better.
This mindset changes everything. It’s how couples move from dating fatigue to real connection. We work with all of our clients to take this new UT Match approach to dating.
For Singles Who Are Ready to Stop Waiting
We created UT Match for young single adults who still believe in love and who haven’t given up on the idea that real connection, commitment, and marriage are worth it. We understand that dating can be discouraging and frustrating. You might wonder if your time has passed or if dating even exists anymore. It does!! We see it every day with the clients we work with...people meeting, connecting, and realizing that the right match often comes when you decide to try again, with hope and intention.
So don’t lose faith in love. Your efforts matter! When you’re ready, take that next small step whether that's trying to attend FHE or when a friend asks you to do something...go! Not out of pressure or fear, but out of trust that good things come to those who move forward with purpose. Because love isn’t about luck...it’s about faith, timing, and courage! And yours might be closer than you think.











